Divorce expert James Brien, who founded Easy Online Divorce in 2020 after going through his own separation, has divulged that a common trait he sees in most clients wanting to dissolve their marriage is a breakdown in communication. From financial woes to extramarital affairs, relationships may encounter turbulence for myriad reasons.
Mr Brien, a conflict specialist and published author on the topic of divorce, observes that there can be various catalysts for a split. However, a significant number of couples have ceased engaging in meaningful dialogue well before they decide to part ways.
Mr Brien said: "There are many factors behind why couples divorce, and it's often not one single action that spells the end of a marriage. But there is a common theme I see in most couples looking to end their legal partnership - a lack of communication.
"At some point along the way their communication has broken down and they have found it hard or impossible to speak to one other about the problems they are facing. They have stopped opening up about what's wrong, stopped working through problems together and bitterness and resentment has started to seep in.
"I see this when they reach the stage of wanting to end their marriage and are at complete odds about why their relationship has crumbled.
"Often one action is blamed - such as infidelity - but the truth is a marriage has often broken down before such an act is carried out."
Even if the relationship is irretrievable, a less painful separation is still feasible with good communication, reports the Mirror. The author of 'The Real Man's Guide to Divorce' and 'The Mindful Divorce: How to Heal and Be Happy After Separation', emphasises the importance of minimising the impact on children and the wider family.
He said: "Divorce can have far-reaching emotional impacts. This is why it's so important to be as open and honest with each other as possible. Be truthful about your feelings and listen when your partner does the same.
"If you do reach a point where you can no longer stay in the marriage, an understanding of each other goes a huge way to minimising conflict. It's a big ask but it is possible."
Since 2022, the 'no-fault' divorce law permits couples to separate without assigning blame. Previously, one had to provide evidence of unreasonable behaviour or wait for a two-year separation if both parties agreed to divorce.
Mr Brien added: "The old system was a really stressful process and often involved delays. The 'no-fault' divorce has allowed couples to part ways in a kinder fashion which has paved the way for building a more harmonious environment post-split."
